Divorce is one of the most challenging life experiences that anyone can grapple with. However, there are times when divorce is the healthiest option available to a couple. Divorce is an intimate decision and it is ultimately up to you and you alone to determine whether it is the healthiest option for you.
If you do decide that divorce is the best option given your situation, you are likely experiencing some strong emotions right now. You could be navigating shock, hurt, jealousy, anger, worry and fear. Processing strong negative emotions in the wake of a decision to divorce can be a daunting task. However, it is necessary to embrace this process in order to move forward in healthy ways. Here are a few ideas to consider as you navigate this time.
Reaching Out to Friends
Divorce is usually accompanied by a grieving process. The pain can make you feel like isolating from others. Do your best to schedule a few times a week to get with friends or family who care about you. This will help you to open up about your struggles and to vent in a healthy way. Having this support system will make it less likely that you'll try to cope with your pain in unhealthy ways.
What about the Kids?
One of the things you can do to help yourself is to make sure that your children are cared for and happy. Parenting can be especially challenging after a divorce for a number of reasons. Part of your healing will come from giving extra care and compassion to your children. After all, they are an extension of you. When they hurt, you hurt. When you know that they've turned the corner and will be all right, this will help you to feel the same way.
Quality Alone Time
After a divorce, you will be understandably vulnerable. You will therefore need to take whatever time is necessary to heal. Because of the strong emotions you may feel after a divorce, it is generally best to put major decisions on hold for a little while. Although you may be tempted to jump right into another relationship, that may not be what is best for you. If possible, wait until you are consistently feeling better before finding a new significant other. At the right time, you will be ready for love again.